38 years ago, a law went into effect that made it perfectly “okay,” by the standards of our laws and government, to kill innocent human beings. Astounding, right? And we have been — systematically, through a “common medical procedure.” It is genocide — right here, right now. It’s ageist, it’s prejudice, and it’s selfish. It’s also extremely offensive to me, personally. And here’s why.
If you REALLY want to be pro-life about things, it’s a go all the way sort of issue. Take out “innocent” and by the logic of our laws, it is okay to kill human life if they’re guity or deserving. Period. No need for second chances, compassion, or forgiveness. And that’s ridiculous. But that’s for another blog post.
Even those who warrant no punishment, who have done no harm to society, and who deserve protection — the same for any innocent citizen — BY LAW are not protected. They are falsely accused for infringing on a woman’s personal space and autonomy, though they didn’t ask to be there. They are blamed for causing hardship, poverty, and discomfort, though they didn’t put forth effort to do so. They are de-humanized and treated as property, though they themselves are the future citizens of our society. Laws that are made to protect peace and justice do not serve them well — where is justice in punishing the innocent? They are not protected; they are put to death.
And that is an injustice. We are not God, we cannot create human life out of nothing. If we cannot create it, we have no right to destroy it.
Prochoice seems to have a problem with the word “right.” By definition, a “right” is a legal entitlement. But the definition doesn’t stop there. A “right” is also that which is morally correct, just, and honorable. I’m not a philosopher, but aren’t there laws about contradiction? Or even, “the whole truth and nothing but the truth”? So how can a “legal entitlement” that is immoral, unjust, and dishonorable actually be… well… a right? In fact, an antonym of the noun form of “right” are “injustice, inequity, wrong.” The pro-choice argument for legalized abortion sounds far more like a “want” to me. “I have the
right desire to abort the fetus in my body if I so choose.” They’re very confused.
The right that I do have, as a woman, is to bear children. I can do it if I want to, and it’s due to me because it’s what women are made to do. I’m pretty offended when people want to take my femininity away from me. I’m not a man… so tell me again why you think I should be more like one? And not even honorable men, at that– pro-choice wants me to be able to be just as commitment-less, opportunistic, and selfish as the terrible men they let degrade their integrity and dignity. Well, I sure don’t want to be used. But I don’t plan on using other people either. So if you’re trying to “empower” me to be more like a less-than-upstanding man… no thanks.
Sometimes I feel like I have no ground to stand on. I’m not a mother, I haven’t been pregnant. There are women that can speak from that perspective. But I CAN say that every time I see a pregnant woman, I don’t think, “Oh, you are growing ambivalent tissue that will one day be a child!” I think, “What a CUTE MOMMY. I can’t wait to be one.” I don’t know how many mothers haul themselves around waiting until the day of birth to begin to think of their pregnancy as a child… all the he/she, names, showers, shopping, preparing, creepy people touching her stomach… it all indicates that our society recognizes that it is a human with unique and special personhood. So why are we so confused when it comes to legalizing things?! A baby is from the beginning, it doesn’t just receive personhood by osmosis or something when it reaches a viable state. That’s more fairytale and make-believe than anything! One day, a fetus… then, POOF! A fetus with personhood and the ability to be unique, have personality, likes and dislikes… all the things that make us human!! As I like to say on twitter… #prochoice logic fail.
Often, I feel so degraded by the prochoice effort. What they are saying to me, as a woman, is that if I – in moments of my greatest desperation – reach out and say, “I can’t do this!!!”, the pro-choice side is there to affirm me in that desperation and hopelessness. They say, “You are right, you cannot do it. Let’s take care of the problem.”
What kind of a message is that?! Not just for women, but for our society? For our children? For young girls?
If you think you cannot do it, you probably can’t. Don’t sacrifice, don’t give it all you’ve got, don’t keep going even when it gets hard… just get an abortion, remove the issue, and move on with your life!! You can have freedom, you can have your LIFE! And best of all, we’re saving you from the unsafe, unsanitary abortion you WOULD be having if it wasn’t legal for you to pay us lots of money for a safe, simple medical procedure right here. Because without us, without this nearly-painless operation, you would have no one and nothing else to turn to. You can’t have this child. You don’t have enough money, energy, time, patience. You haven’t finished your education. You are too young. You aren’t far enough along in your career. You aren’t successful enough. You can’t deal with this right now.
You are not strong enough, so abortion is your only choice.
Am I the only person insulted by this attitude? Because prochoicers will be the last to come out and use plain language to admit exactly what they mean. Trust me, I have had my words twisted around on twitter so many times it would make your head spin. The “empowerment” they speak of is false and shallow… the early, true feminists NEVER would have let such a thing happen to them. It’s not empowerment. It makes me feel like less of a woman.
No wonder I feel the intrinsic need to fight their drivel and often, their hatred, bitterness, and anger. It must be hard to feel like a second-class citizen.